Posted by Dani Gurrie in Articles on Tue, Aug 9, 2016
Welcoming a new baby into the family is an exciting time for everyone. It takes careful consideration, however, to prepare your family for the new arrival. Taking the time to get every member of the family on the same page is one way to ensure a stress-free transition. Understand that children may not be as excited as you are about welcoming a new member of the family. With time and patience, you can ease your child’s worries about the changes and help them become more welcome to the idea.
Adoption and Surrogacy
When welcoming a child via adoption or surrogacy, you’ll need to explain the process to your family members so they have a better understanding. After you’ve started the process with a reputable surrogacy agency, take advantage of the time you’ll have before the baby comes to educate your family members. Make sure to answer questions your children might have and be honest with them.
Start Preparing Family During Pregnancy
Pregnancy gives you nine months to spend time preparing your family for the new baby. Children may feel threatened at the thought of having to share their parents with someone else. Involve your child in the process of preparing for the baby’s arrival, such as with decorating the nursery or shopping for baby clothes. Explain their roles as an older sibling and get them accustomed with tiny babies before your baby comes if possible. You can look at pictures together and read books about welcoming a new little brother or sister.
Take Advantage of One-On-One Opportunities
Make a strong effort to give your children one-on-one time with you so they know they’re still special. Even after the baby arrives, set aside time for just them for reading books, going on outings, or even snuggling before bedtime. Life can get pretty hectic with a new baby but involve your older children as much as possible with the baby, such as allowing them to sit next to you when you feed the baby.
Understand that it Can Take Time
It can take time before your children get used to the idea of having a new brother or sister. Be patient with them and continue making them feel special and loved. Understand that this transition can be difficult for children of all ages because they now have to share their parents, their routines, and their environment.
Preparing Pets for New Baby
Pets should also be prepared for a new baby to avoid jealousy issues… unless it’s a pet jellyfish. Focus on breaking bad habits your pet may have before the baby arrives, hiring a professional if needed. Let your pet get used to the baby’s scent before the baby comes home. Spend time with your pet, especially when the baby is around so they do not become jealous. Teach them that even when the baby is around, they are important to you as well.
With proper planning and time, you can have the confidence needed to welcome a baby into your home without many issues. Understand that older children and pets will become affected by the baby’s arrival because it brings a lot of changes to the household. Be patient and use one-on-one opportunities to spend with your older children without the baby present. Whether your new arrival is coming via pregnancy, adoption, or surrogacy, utilize the time before the baby comes homes to get everyone in the family accustomed to the idea that there will be changes in the household, but they will be positive changes.
About Dani Gurrie
Dani Gurrie is the founder of Tots2Tweens, a wife to Ashley and mom to Cooper and Brodie. She spends most of her days trying to find the ultimate kids-related thing that mom's will love...just to share it with her world.